Just something to think about:

Often in counselling sessions, people would say to me: They don’t value “me”; They don’t appreciate “me”; They don’t love “me”; They don’t talk to “me”.

The issue with these sentences is that they all end with “ME”. You are making things personal. You are turning other people’s behaviour into a reflection of your own worth. Let us se what happens when you take the “ME” out of each sentence – THEY don’t value; THEY don’t talk; THEY don’t appreciate; THEY don’t love – This way, you stopped making it personal, and made it into an observation of what they value in life. Not about who you are. When you stop making things personal, you actually stop holding on to pain that was never yours to carry!