The Love Of Giving:

When you catch a fish, take it out of the water, kill it and then cook it, you will say it is because you love fish. That is not true -- Never say you love fish when you do that. You only love yourself and the fish taste good to you, that is why you catch the fish, kill it, cook it and eat it. The same is with chicken, don't say you love chicken when you cut the head off, pluck the feather and cook it. You only love yourself and like the taste of the chicken.

So much of what is love -- is the love for yourself.

Even when a young couple falls in love. a Young man and a Young woman falls in love, so what does that mean? It means that he saw in this woman, someone who he felt, could provide him with all of his physical and emotional needs. She felt in this man, is somebody that she can write in her heart that was love. But this is not always the case. In many cases, each one is looking out for their own needs. Just look at the divorce statistics It is not love for the other. The other person becomes a vehicle for his / her own gratification. Too much of what is called love, is actually love for yourself.

On the other hand -- an external love, is not what I am going to get from the fish, chicken or relationship -- but what I am going to give. People are making a serious mistake in thinking that you give to those whom you love. The real answer is you love those to whom you give. Since self-love is in everybody -- and everybody do loves themselves -- but when I give to you, that part of me that I gave, has become a part in you, then that is a part of me that I love. My point is this, if I give something to you, I have invested myself in you. Therefore, true love is really a love of giving and not a love of receiving. Yeshua is an excellent example -- He loved you so much that He gave His life for you -- the love of giving.