When Lot prepared a meal for his angelic guests (Genesis 19:3), he baked the bread himself. Compare this to Abraham who organized the meal, but had Sarah bake the bread. Lot's family doesn't appear to play any role in hosting their guests. This is another sign that Lot had lost control of his family, probably because he took up residence in Sodom. You can't put a handful of good apples into a basket full of rotten apples and expect them to transform the rotten ones. Lot couldn't depend on his wife for anything good and, although she was responsible for her own sins, he was the one who set her up to fall by putting her into a circumstance that she was not strong enough to handle.
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