For Christ did not please himself, but as it is written, “The reproaches of those who reproached you fell on me.”
Romans 15:3 ESV

If you want to be like Yeshua who exchanged his place in Heaven for a mortal life of struggle and pain, then you will need to suppress your own desires in favor of your brothers and sisters in him. Your primary purpose in the gathering of saints (i.e. church, synagogue, etc.) must not be to learn, to be served, nor to be fed, but to give. Your mission is to be of service in whatever capacity God has gifted you, and you can’t fulfill that mission if you are eager to perceive or deliver offense, even if you mean well by it.