Know then in your heart that, as a man disciplines his son, the LORD your God disciplines you.
Deuteronomy 8:5

Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling,
Philippians 2:12

Total obedience is the goal of "working out your salvation". It's a journey and a difficult one at that. Don't be afraid of it, though. God will be there to strengthen, discipline, and encourage you along the way. It won't always be pleasant, and you will never achieve perfection in this life, but God is gracious and forgiving, and he promises that the rewards will be worth the effort. God wants total surrender even if we don't understand and aren't fully capable. He wants a willing heart, not a perfect one.

Asarah B'Tevet
*Prayer and Dedication
December 14*

Chronicles 7:14
If My people, who are called by My Name, will humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.

I urge you to prayerfully consider your Fasting and Dedication in prayer to pray for your family and all the people of your country.

Set your objective of prayer.
Make your commitment.
Prepare yourself spiritually and write down the names of people who you would like to bring to His Throne of Mercy. Being specific.
Prepare yourself physically.

Pray for the peace of Jerusalem:
"May those who love you be secure. May there be peace within your walls and security within your Holy Places." For the sake of Zion, I will say, "Peace be within you." For the sake of the house of YHVH our Elohim, I will seek your prosperity.

A guideline: Prepare yourself for spiritual renewal, protection, for guidance, for healing, for the resolution of problems, for special grace, guidance to handle difficult situations, for the salvation and Redemption or specific for the Kingdom to come.

Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you with objectives for your prayer and fast. This will enable you to pray more specifically and strategically.

Yeshua indicated that all of His followers should fast Matthew 6:16-18; 9:14,15

Prepare your heart and be ready for confessions of sin and repentance.

Meditate on the attributes of YHVH, His love, sovereignty, power, wisdom, faithfulness, mercy, grace and compassion.

Readings:
Psalm 122
Psalm 48:9,10; 103:1-8, 11-13
Hebrews 11:6
Galatians 5:16,17
1 John 1:9
1 John 5:14,15
Mark 11:25
Luke 11:4 17:3-4
Ephesians 5:18
Romans 12:1-2

Begin your day in praise and worship.

Read and meditate on YHVH’s Word, preferably using your knees.

Pray for His vision for your life and empowerment to do His will.

Invite the Holy Spirit to work in you to will and to do His good pleasure according to Philippians 2:13.

On the 10th day of the Hebrew month of Tevet, in the year 3336 from Creation (425 BCE), the armies of the Babylonian emperor Nebuchadnezzar laid siege to Jerusalem.

YHVH patiently delayed the destruction to give the Israelites another chance to repent.

He repeatedly sent Jeremiah the prophet to sincerely forewarned His nation, but they foolishly imprisoned him.

30 months later, on Tamuz 92 the very date the walls would be breached when the Second Temple was destroyed, 3338, the city walls were breached, and on 9 Av of that year the Holy Temple was destroyed and the Israelites were exiled.

We view this as the beginning of a chain of events that culminated with the destruction of the Temple and the subsequent exiles, something that we have never fully recovered from, because even when the Second Temple was finally built, it never returned to its full glory.

We use this time to pray for our Messiah to come. For the Kingdom of YHVH to be established and His reign.

When the Kingdom comes, it will exert its full power toward and will remove the present wicked systems.

We give thanks to YHVH for giving us this coming day, to come before Him in sincere and reverent prayer.

Be blessed and stay blessed ?

THIS WEEK:

Vayechi — וַיְחִי
He lived

TORAH : GENESIS 47:28-50:26
PROPHETS : 1 KINGS 2:1-12
GOSPEL : JOHN 13:1-19

Shalom Ladies,
I’m going to broach a subject that needs to be brought out and discussed more and more within Israel, and the victims need to recognize what’s happening to them, take back their lives and return back to HaShem and set about establishing healthy boundaries and finding healing.

The subject is Family Abuse. I bring this up because I was a victim from a previous marriage, and am still fighting to overcome its effects from certain extended family either by their sin of remaining silent in the presence of emotional and verbal violence being committed, or by the acts of verbal, mental and emotional abuse committed themselves. Abuse comes in many ways, and can be suffered within any relationship: parent to child, adult child to parent, older sibling to younger (the abuse continues into adulthood), adult niece or nephew to aunt or uncle, husband to wife, wife to husband, significant others (either gender).
There are tendencies to excuse, overlook, love them through it, feelings of guilt and natural anger as boundaries of respect and honor are continuously crossed by the abuser. Only in coming to terms with the truth of the relationship, of that person and sometimes that realization is revealed by comparing one’s family dynamics with someone else’s, and be willing to make the change within oneself will breakthrough finally take place. You have to also understand that it is NOT your responsibility to bring healing to an abuser. That is the psychological weight that abusers lay upon the victims by making them feel responsible for the abuser’s welfare. This is NOT true and boundaries must be made in many ways to break the cycle for one’s own safety.

From an article:

Birth-Family Abuses of Adult Daughters

"When people show you who they are, believe them"....Maya Angelou

An abusive birth-relative is most often a parent, but can also be a sibling, grandparent, cousin, aunt or uncle. When we refer to abusive, controlling, or abandoning "birth-families", we mean the family who raised you, and who was supposed to love, protect, and cherish you. This includes adoptive, step-, and foster families.
There are a number of behaviors that can be considered abusive, but we often don't think of them in that way simply because we have been raised experiencing these behaviors from a relative that we have known all of our lives, and we think of his behavior as normal, because it is all we have ever known from him.
Because we love this person, we tend to overlook his behavior. We have also been trained since childhood to ignore or make excuses for the abuse by other relatives who are in denial or who protect the abuser (see The Silent Partner). A family member's bad childhood, background, war experiences, alcoholism, personality disorders, psychological problems, etc., may help us to understand him, but should never be used as an excuse to justify his mistreatment or abuse of others. Whether he chooses to get help for his issues or not, he does not have the right to inflict them on anyone else.
We sometimes don't understand that we are really being abused until we compare our family relationships with someone else whose family does not behave in an abusive or controlling manner.
Any behavior which attempts to control you is abuse, simply because adults do not control other adults. When any given behavior causes you stress on a regular basis or begins to undermine your self-esteem, it has crossed the line into abuse.
Here are some examples of abusive behavior. Please e-mail us any others you can think of so we can add them to our list.
Criticism Manipulation Humiliation Betrayal Insults
Undermining self-confidence Guilt-Trips Name-calling
Disrespecting Intruding Unreasonable expectations
Treating you like a child Telling you what to do Unloving
Demeaning Not respecting your privacy Lying Stealing
Judgmentalism Raising voice at you Trying to bribe you
Threatening Disowning Making demands Sabotage
Expecting 'obedience' from you even though you are now an adult
Pressuring Snide comments Abandoning Giving orders
Inappropriate anger Frequent rudeness
Expecting you to take care of them or solve their problems
Expecting you to sacrifice for them while ignoring your needs (one-way relationship)
Instigating trouble between family members Selfishness
Prying Pressuring you to lie, cover up, or keep family secrets
Picking fights Screaming Belittling Sarcasm Using you
Complaining about you to others Denial Taking advantage
Whining or using tears to get own way The Silent Treatment
Making scenes in public or in front of your children
Pressuring you to take sides with them against other relatives
Blaming you for whatever they're unhappy about
Blaming you or others for whatever they do wrong
Insensitivity Inconsideration Hurtfullness Uncaring
Minimizing your feelings Nastiness Belligerence Cruelty
Making you doubt your perceptions Pouting Gossiping
Negative remarks about your weight, appearance, etc.
Transferring their abuse to your spouse when you get married, rejecting your spouse
Competing with your spouse
Trying to make an ally of your spouse, smothering your spouse with love to make you look crazy and turn him against you later on.
——
I’ll continue on this topic tomorrow on the Effects of Abuse and Why They Abuse, Betray, or Abandon You.

Shalom Ladies,
I’m going to broach a subject that needs to be brought out and discussed more and more within Israel, and the victims need to recognize what’s happening to them, take back their lives and return back to HaShem and set about establishing healthy boundaries and finding healing.

The subject is Family Abuse. I bring this up because I was a victim from a previous marriage, and am still fighting to overcome its effects from certain extended family either by their sin of remaining silent in the presence of emotional and verbal violence being committed, or by the acts of verbal, mental and emotional abuse committed themselves. Abuse comes in many ways, and can be suffered within any relationship: parent to child, adult child to parent, older sibling to younger (the abuse continues into adulthood), adult niece or nephew to aunt or uncle, husband to wife, wife to husband, significant others (either gender).
There are tendencies to excuse, overlook, love them through it, feelings of guilt and natural anger as boundaries of respect and honor are continuously crossed by the abuser. Only in coming to terms with the truth of the relationship, of that person and sometimes that realization is revealed by comparing one’s family dynamics with someone else’s, and be willing to make the change within oneself will breakthrough finally take place. You have to also understand that it is NOT your responsibility to bring healing to an abuser. That is the psychological weight that abusers lay upon the victims by making them feel responsible for the abuser’s welfare. This is NOT true and boundaries must be made in many ways to break the cycle for one’s own safety.

From an article:

Birth-Family Abuses of Adult Daughters

"When people show you who they are, believe them"....Maya Angelou

An abusive birth-relative is most often a parent, but can also be a sibling, grandparent, cousin, aunt or uncle. When we refer to abusive, controlling, or abandoning "birth-families", we mean the family who raised you, and who was supposed to love, protect, and cherish you. This includes adoptive, step-, and foster families.
There are a number of behaviors that can be considered abusive, but we often don't think of them in that way simply because we have been raised experiencing these behaviors from a relative that we have known all of our lives, and we think of his behavior as normal, because it is all we have ever known from him.
Because we love this person, we tend to overlook his behavior. We have also been trained since childhood to ignore or make excuses for the abuse by other relatives who are in denial or who protect the abuser (see The Silent Partner). A family member's bad childhood, background, war experiences, alcoholism, personality disorders, psychological problems, etc., may help us to understand him, but should never be used as an excuse to justify his mistreatment or abuse of others. Whether he chooses to get help for his issues or not, he does not have the right to inflict them on anyone else.
We sometimes don't understand that we are really being abused until we compare our family relationships with someone else whose family does not behave in an abusive or controlling manner.
Any behavior which attempts to control you is abuse, simply because adults do not control other adults. When any given behavior causes you stress on a regular basis or begins to undermine your self-esteem, it has crossed the line into abuse.
Here are some examples of abusive behavior. Please e-mail us any others you can think of so we can add them to our list.
Criticism Manipulation Humiliation Betrayal Insults
Undermining self-confidence Guilt-Trips Name-calling
Disrespecting Intruding Unreasonable expectations
Treating you like a child Telling you what to do Unloving
Demeaning Not respecting your privacy Lying Stealing
Judgmentalism Raising voice at you Trying to bribe you
Threatening Disowning Making demands Sabotage
Expecting 'obedience' from you even though you are now an adult
Pressuring Snide comments Abandoning Giving orders
Inappropriate anger Frequent rudeness
Expecting you to take care of them or solve their problems
Expecting you to sacrifice for them while ignoring your needs (one-way relationship)
Instigating trouble between family members Selfishness
Prying Pressuring you to lie, cover up, or keep family secrets
Picking fights Screaming Belittling Sarcasm Using you
Complaining about you to others Denial Taking advantage
Whining or using tears to get own way The Silent Treatment
Making scenes in public or in front of your children
Pressuring you to take sides with them against other relatives
Blaming you for whatever they're unhappy about
Blaming you or others for whatever they do wrong
Insensitivity Inconsideration Hurtfullness Uncaring
Minimizing your feelings Nastiness Belligerence Cruelty
Making you doubt your perceptions Pouting Gossiping
Negative remarks about your weight, appearance, etc.
Transferring their abuse to your spouse when you get married, rejecting your spouse
Competing with your spouse
Trying to make an ally of your spouse, smothering your spouse with love to make you look crazy and turn him against you later on.
——
I’ll continue on this topic tomorrow on the Effects of Abuse and Why They Abuse, Betray, or Abandon You.

Shalom Ladies,
I’m going to broach a subject that needs to be brought out and discussed more and more within Israel, and the victims need to recognize what’s happening to them, take back their lives and return back to HaShem and set about establishing healthy boundaries and finding healing.

The subject is Family Abuse. I bring this up because I was a victim from a previous marriage, and am still fighting to overcome its effects from certain extended family either by their sin of remaining silent in the presence of emotional and verbal violence being committed, or by the acts of verbal, mental and emotional abuse committed themselves. Abuse comes in many ways, and can be suffered within any relationship: parent to child, adult child to parent, older sibling to younger (the abuse continues into adulthood), adult niece or nephew to aunt or uncle, husband to wife, wife to husband, significant others (either gender).
There are tendencies to excuse, overlook, love them through it, feelings of guilt and natural anger as boundaries of respect and honor are continuously crossed by the abuser. Only in coming to terms with the truth of the relationship, of that person and sometimes that realization is revealed by comparing one’s family dynamics with someone else’s, and be willing to make the change within oneself will breakthrough finally take place. You have to also understand that it is NOT your responsibility to bring healing to an abuser. That is the psychological weight that abusers lay upon the victims by making them feel responsible for the abuser’s welfare. This is NOT true and boundaries must be made in many ways to break the cycle for one’s own safety.

From an article:

Birth-Family Abuses of Adult Daughters

"When people show you who they are, believe them"....Maya Angelou

An abusive birth-relative is most often a parent, but can also be a sibling, grandparent, cousin, aunt or uncle. When we refer to abusive, controlling, or abandoning "birth-families", we mean the family who raised you, and who was supposed to love, protect, and cherish you. This includes adoptive, step-, and foster families.
There are a number of behaviors that can be considered abusive, but we often don't think of them in that way simply because we have been raised experiencing these behaviors from a relative that we have known all of our lives, and we think of his behavior as normal, because it is all we have ever known from him.
Because we love this person, we tend to overlook his behavior. We have also been trained since childhood to ignore or make excuses for the abuse by other relatives who are in denial or who protect the abuser (see The Silent Partner). A family member's bad childhood, background, war experiences, alcoholism, personality disorders, psychological problems, etc., may help us to understand him, but should never be used as an excuse to justify his mistreatment or abuse of others. Whether he chooses to get help for his issues or not, he does not have the right to inflict them on anyone else.
We sometimes don't understand that we are really being abused until we compare our family relationships with someone else whose family does not behave in an abusive or controlling manner.
Any behavior which attempts to control you is abuse, simply because adults do not control other adults. When any given behavior causes you stress on a regular basis or begins to undermine your self-esteem, it has crossed the line into abuse.
Here are some examples of abusive behavior. Please e-mail us any others you can think of so we can add them to our list.
Criticism Manipulation Humiliation Betrayal Insults
Undermining self-confidence Guilt-Trips Name-calling
Disrespecting Intruding Unreasonable expectations
Treating you like a child Telling you what to do Unloving
Demeaning Not respecting your privacy Lying Stealing
Judgmentalism Raising voice at you Trying to bribe you
Threatening Disowning Making demands Sabotage
Expecting 'obedience' from you even though you are now an adult
Pressuring Snide comments Abandoning Giving orders
Inappropriate anger Frequent rudeness
Expecting you to take care of them or solve their problems
Expecting you to sacrifice for them while ignoring your needs (one-way relationship)
Instigating trouble between family members Selfishness
Prying Pressuring you to lie, cover up, or keep family secrets
Picking fights Screaming Belittling Sarcasm Using you
Complaining about you to others Denial Taking advantage
Whining or using tears to get own way The Silent Treatment
Making scenes in public or in front of your children
Pressuring you to take sides with them against other relatives
Blaming you for whatever they're unhappy about
Blaming you or others for whatever they do wrong
Insensitivity Inconsideration Hurtfullness Uncaring
Minimizing your feelings Nastiness Belligerence Cruelty
Making you doubt your perceptions Pouting Gossiping
Negative remarks about your weight, appearance, etc.
Transferring their abuse to your spouse when you get married, rejecting your spouse
Competing with your spouse
Trying to make an ally of your spouse, smothering your spouse with love to make you look crazy and turn him against you later on.
——
I’ll continue on this topic tomorrow on the Effects of Abuse and Why They Abuse, Betray, or Abandon You.